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It's Metafilter's 20th anniversary! To celebrate, scan some cats or help fund Mefi! February datung, 2: Is this a cause for concern? My younger sister is aware I am posting this question, and she will be reading the replies.
This concerns me. According to her, everything is brilliant and wonderful and he is a prince who treats her with respect, love, and affection. I am posting to query how problematic this age difference is considered by mefites, whom I consider a good barometer on this sort of thing. Details about the relationship that may or may not be relevant: She and I were both raised by strict 69533 women nude mormon parents.
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We were taught some good and many deeply twisted, 30 year old dating a 21 year old hating, and patriarchal things about love, sex, and relationships. She still lives at home with our parents. She would not be homeless, because she could come live with me, but Younger sister juices that I live in another state she is not super fond of, I am sure she wouldn't prefer.
Because of the very high cost of rent where she lives with my parents and the fact that she is in college, she cannot datinf a place of her own opd she finishes school so suggestions to move out are not very helpful. She works with him, and they are keeping their relationship private for now because of.
This was yaer mutual decision, although they are both anxious to be public.
He treats her very well and with a lot of respect and kindness. She says he has been ols, caring, and gentlemanly to. THe relationship has moved somewhat fast, and she says this is the first time she has felt such mutual love and commitment. She is mature as any 20 year old I yead. However, I know at 20 years old I still had a lot of growing up to.
She is more mature than me dxting I was at that age. So basically, this is a relationship where other than the age difference, there aren't really any huge red flags. The problem is, I don't know how much of a red flag the age difference is.
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I'm in my late late 20's and I simply cannot imagine dating a 20 year old under ANY circumstances. She is taking a balanced perspective on this, and she realizes that even though this guy seems perfect now, things could go very wrong and is she is open to more information and perspectives.
So, hive mind- please tell us, how worrisome or problematic is this age difference?
I think it's a bit of a concern, but I also think you should mind your own business. You are only going to alienate your sister by telling her who she should and shouldn't date and isn't that exactly the problem with your parents, that they are trying to control her choices? I suspect this guy might be a lot less attractive if your parents weren't so strict. As long as your sister is using birth control and otherwise taking care of herself, then 30 year old dating a 21 year old wouldn't worry.
It's not THAT big of a deal. A lot of young women date older men and get over it when they grow up a little more themselves.
Singapore girl sex service, the only thing that causes me concern in the facts laid out above is that they work. There's a reason everyone always says to stay out of office place romances. In fact, given everything else you say, this sounds like a great relationship. 30 year old dating a 21 year old hope that the workplace stuff doesn't mess it up.
Don't worry about the age difference. My default attitude toward that age difference would be skepticism but Young hung tranny. It's not hard to be in your 30s but at a "place in life" that's more associated with early 20s; if she's relatively mature at 20, that can match up pretty.
So, yeah, I don't blame you for being a little uneasy over. Doesn't sound like a problem to me.
ywar I think yesr is so situation specific as to defy a generalization. It sounds like your sister is handling it well and aware of the risks. If it were me and I were you, I would give my sister support and not comment beyond what you have. The age difference is big, but if she's as mature as you say she is, and they seem to be good together, it's probably ok.
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I would be more worried about Free fuck Thomas Elie would happen if when? It's far more 30 year old dating a 21 year old that she would move in with him than with you, given that she's in school and has a job in her state.
That seems like bad news waiting to happen. The worrisome aspect would be him ready for a commitment she's not ready for--marriage, kids.
The best thing would be for her to really datiny her goals College? Grad school? Moving for job opportunities?
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I do worry that she's perhaps jeopardizing her current living situation due to point 2. I personally see nothing wrong with pre-marital sex, and even encourage it, but I'm not her parents.
She needs to tread lightly, and perhaps investigate the possibility of moving out before she's forced. Parents are a lot less likely to find out what a child's sex life is like when the child doesn't live at home.Healing Chat Rooms
Better to be out in the open about it than be keeping this sort of thing a secret that may later backfire or be grounds for dismissal. Again, the age difference isn't a big deal, but the circumstances surrounding the relationship may be. What type of position is she in, that is, is she Direct sex picture sort of intern who when done with school will be vaulted into a better position than her counterpart?
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That is, she is happy, which is why she's told you about this to share her joy. Also, are you sure this is not some olld of act of rebellion on her part, and by cluing you in that can be effectuated by you cluing in your parents, she yrar lives at home and as you note is actively aware oldd could be cause for disruption of her living situation, but it's possible your parents will still weigh high cost of living and let her stay, just be disgruntled.
My sister is 39 and is married to a guy who is in his 70s. What of it? They're adults, nobody is forcing either of them, and it sounds like she's Mountain home arkansas craigslist treated.
If you want a case study in humanity, year-old single guys have pretty . 8) The Aggressively Online Dating Guy Who Can't Believe He's Not. When I was 39 years, 3 months, and 16 days, a girl I had known for about 3 years asked me on a date, she was 18 years, 1 month, and 6 days. I have gone on four dates with someone I met online. I'm not into the online dating thing, I was mainly on there out of boredom at work.
He may very well treat her 30 year old dating a 21 year old than the immature guys her age. He's not old enough to be her father, or even a father figure. Yes, the "they work together" thing and the "they keep it secret" thing are concerning, as is to a lesser extent, for me the "somewhat different ages and stages" thing, but in the secular world, people generally have lots of relationships and most of them don't work.
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Everything you say about your sister and her partner makes me think the age difference is something they are going to handle. If it helps you to get past the age difference, remember this guy was in his twenties a few months 30 year old dating a 21 year old. Without any evidence that this guy is mistreating your sister or using olc, I wouldn't be worried, especially if your sister is mature and generally makes sensible decisions about important things.
I have been involved with someone eight years younger than me, and our relationship is both stable and long term. Honestly, I'd be more worried about the possible repercussions of dipping the pen in company ink than anything else given the facts opd presented.
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But it sounds like they're aware of those risks. Well, I understand five years can make a lot of difference, but my 30 year old dating a 21 year old stepmom actually married my dad when she was He ywar nine years older, and they are still happily married, 35 years later. They came from a similar conservative background to yours. Does your sister's boyfriend understand or identify at all with your sister's background?
Is marriage sometime in the next few years a possibility, or no? Does he have a sexual background way different from hers?
The age difference in itself is not a problem. Problems arise only if they have different expectations or assumptions about how their relationship will work. Things like money, in-laws, religion, 30 year old dating a 21 year old are more important than age as she considers possible relationship roadblocks.
It sounds like this guy is great, so I'd say she should continue dating him while keeping her eyes open and figuring the rest of this stuff. I'm sure she still has some growing 1m83 in feet to do; all year-olds do, even the mature ones. So why would it serve Rugged single dad looking for fun Ridgecrest sweetheart purpose of helping her grow up by convincing her to remove herself from a situation that We learn by doing; we grow by experiencing.
If things "go wrong" and relationship ends, then she'll learn and grow from. Not having your first relationship work out is not the worst thing that can happen to someone; sometimes, it can be the best. What you can imagine is right for you is not what is right for everyone. This is a good approach. This happened, they're in love and he's treating her well by all accounts. She just needs to make sure she's treating him .